On 18 Aug 2017 14:17:45 GMT, Sally Thompson
Post by Sally Thompson Post by Btms
Post by Serena Blanchflower
Pat had been having a private phone call, in her own home. I don't
think she was aware that Susan was in the house, although she had given
her permission to come in to do her washing. I can't remember whether
she became aware of Susan's presence before the news of the plans had
gone all round the village.
This was bad luck for Pat. You mean she heard nobody around?
Post by Serena Blanchflower
Susan would certainly have known that this was private information, not
intended for her ears. Given that she only heard it because Pat had
been kind enough to offer her the use of her washing machine, I think it
was a major abuse of Pat's hospitality, to then tell everyone what she'd
Well it wasn't very nice of Sooozan but the boundary of where exchanging
local news and views crosses into something called gossip and the
perpetrator is named and shamed is less clear to me. Here is an example; a
couple I know both have previous relationships. It was said to me that
the couple are not actually married as I had assumed. Is this gossip?
Or, just a fact. I received it has the latter but the people involved may
well not like the idea that this was even mentioned. There was no
pejorative tone from the person who mentioned this.
IKWYM. I was recently told something about a friend (P) which I hadn't
known, by someone (M) who doesn't really know her. M could only have got
this information from someone she /does/ know, who also knows said friend.
I wondered whether just to tell friend P that perhaps she shouldn't share
secrets with the mutual friend, but decided in the end to say nothing. It
wasn't anything detrimental to P, just something she might not want to feel
was common knowledge.
Well, Liz Carr, an actress and disability campaigner, in the cast of
Silent Witness, is a friend and she posted on her fb, for friends only
to see, a few days ago that she'd been attacked. A man with scissors
in both hands went for her. She is in an electric wheelchair and was
accompanied by her PA, who pushed the man off and told Liz to go to
safety. Liz was wounded in the scalp and the PA, who fought the man
off bravely, had cuts and a broken finger, but the man ran off and
they found safety.
The police were called and after the two women has been checked in
hospital they went home and Liz posted eventually to say how brave the
PA was and how scared she'd been. She said she didn't want the media
to get the story, and they'd be interested as she was well-known, but
fb posts to friends only are not supposed to be accessible to others.
She does have a lot of friends though and within 48 hours the Daily
Mail had the story and she was doorstepped by a reporter, and the rest
of the papers had it after that. Friends do like to gossip, although
it was true in this case.
They might have got it anyway as police or first aiders might have
talked but there were quotes of how she felt supposedly from friends,
so it was possible that one gossiped.