Post by Penny Post by Serena Blanchflower
No, not really. If he doesn't have any idea what he wants to do, even
in the short term, asking him about it may help him to work out what it
is that he actually wants, rather than just kicking back at whatever
he's told to do. He may, also, be more willing to accept, and to work
at, the difficult bits, if he can see that it's relevant to something he
wants to do.
 again, not necessarily in the long term and he may well change his
mind, multiple times, over the years.
I had no idea what I wanted to do when I left school. I had probably
scuppered most options along the way by knowing (quite fiercely) what I did
*not* want to do. So I can sympathise with Lizzie's attitude (did she do
the same thing, I forget?).
Knowing what you don't want to do is useful - other than "I don't want
to do Maths".
I used to tell the apprentices that if, during their apprenticeship,
they found out that being a whatever they were, or specific elements
of the job, wasn't for them, it had at least been a useful experience
in discovering and crossing it off the list whilst providing them with
paid employment and time to look for something else.
One of my lads wanted to do an Accounting apprenticeship, but we had
no vacancies for him. I got him an Admin apprenticeship at the
college and at the end of his first qualification, he still wanted to
do accounting, so his manager agreed to keep him on and let him do the
AAT course. At the end of the year, he said he didn't want to be an
accountant, but had always wanted to be a musician, but his mum had
insisted he went and did an apprenticeship. So he went back to do a
full time Music course at the college.
I saw him one day near the end of the year and asked how he'd got on
with his music. He said he'd decided now that he didn't want to make
a living in the industry, but actually, he'd quite like to do admin
work, so applied for and got an advanced apprenticeship in Admin and
found a nice job where he still works some years later. Fortunately,
in the intervening years, his sense of responsibility and commitment
developed and he was much better than in the days when he just shoved
things in his drawer if he didn't know what to do with them.