Post by Fenny Post by Btms
He really is a miserable nugger but........ there seems to be a lot of get
over yourself attitude directed at him from listeners. Given the way his
wife behaved and the history of Eds behaviour, I think this is a big ask.
Of course, he is hurting himself more than others, with his inability to
move on but I am not sure I could get back from a similar set of
experiences. He has worked to improve his prospects but gets little
appreciation from his wife. He comes from a family of feckless men who at
best might be described as lovable rogues struggling to survive in the
capitalist world without the nouse of the likes of Briahn and Justin, in
the get rich schemes.
Now he is being much attacked in another place for his reaction to Nics
death. It astounds me how much folk lack humanity and empathy; and
sometimes I despair of this world.
However, the boot is on the other foot for me where that Emurr is
Yes, pots kettle and black. But she doesnt ever question her part in Will
being such a miserable old s*d.
I don't see any such attitude here. If it's elsewhere, those of us
who don't frequent it don't see it.
Will is someone who likes to control everyone he can. Whoever it was
who posted the timeline of Emma's pregnancy included a line about Will
not wanting Emma to go back to work. He seemed very much a
"traditional" husband and father, thinking that housework and
childcare are the only things a woman is good for. If that means Emma
has a part in Will's attitude, I completely disagree.
As a teenager, Will was a little git. Tom Forrest took him under his
wing and gave him an opportunity to make something of himself. He
managed to get a good job, had the backing of a lovely godmother, had
the advantage of being born before Ed so inheriting money. But he's
still a miserable git. All the fuss last year about women in the
cricket team indicates that he's the one with the problems. Everyone
else just has to deal with that.
Maybe. One of you have been on the end of someone’s grief when their spouse
dies unexpectedly and to use modern parlance ‘a soulmate’ (can’t think what
we said in past times). When my dad died without warning, I knew nothing
till the next morning, it was too quick, and then too late at night to ring
me and I had no easy way to get to mum had she wanted me - which she
didn’t. She simply wrote a couple of notes to our neighbour and her vicar,
the church is five mins walk. And she went to bed she told me. On a visit
not much later she was incredibly upset and gave me a well deserved piece
of her mind, it all happened to be true what she said for a time decades
before. But she must’ve felt better for saying it, we’ve gone on to be what
I think were good friends until dementia, probably both vascular and
alzheimers which can present together and the speed at which her memory and
character have vanished in weeks. She is certainly reverting to her first
views of me as a 14 year old immature teenager with no graces whatsoever,
but to me that seems natural as she regressed.
If Will believed Nic was his soulmate, and she certainly has benefitted by
his marrying her so let’s say at the outset she felt he was hers (compared
to whatever she and Andrew had), I can see why he is as he is. There is
also a definite that as Will went up in the world he had little or no time
for the males of the family, I still think he thinks much of Clarrie and
owes his good points to her hard work.
(I wonder if the gitness comes from his inability to break away from his
Grundy past because he loves Clarrie too much to hurt her). I seem to
remember he wanted to help Clarrie far more than Eddie and Jo with the
cottage offer: he knew in his heart of hearts that however stupid Eddie is,
she married for better or worse and will stand by him no matter what.