On Tue, 31 Dec 2019 10:36:44 +0000, krw <***@whitnet.uk> scrawled in the
Post by krw Post by krw
I thought the Bride's family paid for weddings?
That used to be the tradition. I think nowadays it's more freestyle and
it's whoever the happy couple can persuade to foot the bill.
Having paid for 3 daughters' weddings can I get a refund? D#2 married
first and was told the budget, she had half for the actual wedding and
half as cash to aid the deposit on the house. Still married.
d#3 was next I think and had the same budget for the wedding and the
inlaws added for some extras they wanted. She is now divorced and
d#1 had had some debt problems and had asked to use the wedding budget
to get rid of the debt and had the rest for the wedding. Divorced and
remarried. We were not invited to the second wedding.
Sounds like you deserve a refund.
I have(had) 3 brothers and no sisters.
My parents funded my first wedding which, as predicted by my mother, did
not last but was a pretty good family celebration with the reception and
evening 'do' happening in my parents house and garden.
Brother #3's inlaws were not particularly happy with their daughter's
choice but laid on food for the minimum of guests (both close families and
the 2 witnesses) in their garden. The couple arranged their own evening do
for friends and family in a local pub - my parents may have contributed
towards food and drink and certainly provided funds towards a house*.
Brother #2's bride's family paid for his - a strange affair in a local hall
where none of her relatives (largely Belgian) mixed with the rest of us. My
parents provided funds towards a house*.
Brother 1 didn't marry his partner for a few years and when they did,
funded and provided premises (they had a barn) for the whole celebration on
a 'bring a dish' basis. My sister in law explained they were in need of new
sheets and some other bits which arrived as wedding presents.
My own 2 later weddings both happened some time after I'd been cohabiting
for a while and were not generally publicised, the only 'guests' being the
As for wedding invitations, they can be a huge can of worms and have caused
big family problems from time to time.
On the whole I think I prefer elopement.
*terraced houses went for about £2,800 at that time and place - neither
house had a bathroom or indoor loo. I think both their first mortgages were
Annoyed by The Archers since 1959