TNMF’s sister

[Chris]

Have kept in touch with Sarah since TNMF passed away, and she emailed me
news of this programme. I remember TNMF being knowledgeable when an umrat
of the time (Ali) bared all for a calendar raising dosh for Scoliosis.

BBC Radio 4.

13.11.24 @ 09.00 - 09.30

Life Changing

Buried Trauma
Life Changing

Sarah Fairbairns spent much of her life feeling she was a bit different.
Growing up in the 1960's and 70's she had the reputation of a wild child.
On a student exchange in the United States she got to dance on stage with
the caste of the famous counter-culture musical Hair. In her early 20s she
travelled to India with her boyfriend in search of hippy culture, tuning
out, dropping out, taking drugs and becoming what was known at the time as
a 'freak', a group at the extreme end of the hippy spectrum. And yet all
the while she faced bouts of sadness and depression and a confusion as to
why that should be.
It lead eventually to an attempted suicide and
psychiatric treatment. 
Things improved and stabilised. She married, had
children and came to terms with her life, while never really feeling
settled. She even trained and qualified as a Psychotherapist. And yet it
was only towards the end of her training that she started to connect an
event from her childhood with the unsettled life she'd lead and the
fragility she felt.
That trauma had happened when, at the age of eleven,
she had been diagnosed with lateral idiopathic adolescent scoliosis,
resulting in curvature of the spine. The result was a period in an
orthopaedic hospital away from her family with dramatic surgery on her back
and incarceration in a restrictive plaster caste. That long, isolated
hospital stay and the process she went through to stabilise her spine was
ultimately deemed a success, but the girl that emerged from hospital was
more than just a medical success story. 
In her 70s, and with the threat of
further surgery on her back, Sarah began to recognise that a failure to
deal with the trauma of that childhood hospitalisation had been a key
factor in her state of mind and behaviour throughout her life. 
She wrote
in to Life Changing and told Dr Sian Williams about her slow recognition of
her buried and Life Changing childhood trauma, and why confronting and
understanding it had provided belated but extraordinary relief.

Mrs McT

[Nick Odell]

On Wed, 13 Nov 2024 09:54:23 -0000 (UTC), Chris

Post by Chris
Have kept in touch with Sarah since TNMF passed away, and she emailed me
news of this programme. I remember TNMF being knowledgeable when an umrat
of the time (Ali) bared all for a calendar raising dosh for Scoliosis.
BBC Radio 4.
Life Changing
Buried Trauma
Life Changing
Sarah Fairbairns spent much of her life feeling she was a bit different.
Growing up in the 1960's and 70's she had the reputation of a wild child.
On a student exchange in the United States she got to dance on stage with
the caste of the famous counter-culture musical Hair. In her early 20s she
travelled to India with her boyfriend in search of hippy culture, tuning
out, dropping out, taking drugs and becoming what was known at the time as
a 'freak', a group at the extreme end of the hippy spectrum. And yet all
the while she faced bouts of sadness and depression and a confusion as to
why that should be.?It lead eventually to an attempted suicide and
psychiatric treatment. ?Things improved and stabilised. She married, had
children and came to terms with her life, while never really feeling
settled. She even trained and qualified as a Psychotherapist. And yet it
was only towards the end of her training that she started to connect an
event from her childhood with the unsettled life she'd lead and the
fragility she felt.?That trauma had happened when, at the age of eleven,
she had been diagnosed with lateral idiopathic adolescent scoliosis,
resulting in curvature of the spine. The result was a period in an
orthopaedic hospital away from her family with dramatic surgery on her back
and incarceration in a restrictive plaster caste. That long, isolated
hospital stay and the process she went through to stabilise her spine was
ultimately deemed a success, but the girl that emerged from hospital was
more than just a medical success story. ?In her 70s, and with the threat of
further surgery on her back, Sarah began to recognise that a failure to
deal with the trauma of that childhood hospitalisation had been a key
in to Life Changing and told Dr Sian Williams about her slow recognition of
her buried and Life Changing childhood trauma, and why confronting and
understanding it had provided belated but extraordinary relief.

To be absolutely honest with you, I turned Life Changing off this
morning as I usually do and I'm not sure that if I had known
beforehand who it was about that would have changed my mind. For me
it's a bit too much like "Outlook" on the World Service: a programme I
fervently hope I have fallen asleep before I have to listen to it.
(I'm not sure that's grammatical but I think you know what I mean.)

Nick

[Chris]

Post by Nick Odell
On Wed, 13 Nov 2024 09:54:23 -0000 (UTC), Chris

Post by Chris
Have kept in touch with Sarah since TNMF passed away, and she emailed me
news of this programme. I remember TNMF being knowledgeable when an umrat
of the time (Ali) bared all for a calendar raising dosh for Scoliosis.
BBC Radio 4.
Life Changing
Buried Trauma
Life Changing
Sarah Fairbairns spent much of her life feeling she was a bit different.
Growing up in the 1960's and 70's she had the reputation of a wild child.
On a student exchange in the United States she got to dance on stage with
the caste of the famous counter-culture musical Hair. In her early 20s she
travelled to India with her boyfriend in search of hippy culture, tuning
out, dropping out, taking drugs and becoming what was known at the time as
a 'freak', a group at the extreme end of the hippy spectrum. And yet all
the while she faced bouts of sadness and depression and a confusion as to
why that should be.?It lead eventually to an attempted suicide and
psychiatric treatment. ?Things improved and stabilised. She married, had
children and came to terms with her life, while never really feeling
settled. She even trained and qualified as a Psychotherapist. And yet it
was only towards the end of her training that she started to connect an
event from her childhood with the unsettled life she'd lead and the
fragility she felt.?That trauma had happened when, at the age of eleven,
she had been diagnosed with lateral idiopathic adolescent scoliosis,
resulting in curvature of the spine. The result was a period in an
orthopaedic hospital away from her family with dramatic surgery on her back
and incarceration in a restrictive plaster caste. That long, isolated
hospital stay and the process she went through to stabilise her spine was
ultimately deemed a success, but the girl that emerged from hospital was
more than just a medical success story. ?In her 70s, and with the threat of
further surgery on her back, Sarah began to recognise that a failure to
deal with the trauma of that childhood hospitalisation had been a key
in to Life Changing and told Dr Sian Williams about her slow recognition of
her buried and Life Changing childhood trauma, and why confronting and
understanding it had provided belated but extraordinary relief.

To be absolutely honest with you, I turned Life Changing off this
morning as I usually do and I'm not sure that if I had known
beforehand who it was about that would have changed my mind. For me
it's a bit too much like "Outlook" on the World Service: a programme I
fervently hope I have fallen asleep before I have to listen to it.
(I'm not sure that's grammatical but I think you know what I mean.)
Nick

I liked Outlook some years ago but the last time I listened I struggled to
understand the interviewer thanks to my hearing loss over the past few
years.

Mrs MrT