Post by Sam PlusnetHaving put it off 'til the last moment (as usual), we have been writing
Christmas cards to friends & family.
Writing greetings in those cards is the biggest exercise in penmanship I
ever get - and it shows, I now mostly print in block capitals, since
even I struggle to read my handwriting.
Do 'young folk' still send Christmas cards? Or do they do phone, social
media, texts etc. instead?
The cost of stamps goes up every year. The only reason we aren't
bankrupt by now is that our list of 'cards to be sent' grows shorter.
And on that cheerful note...
It's tricky, I feel.
Despite the extortionate cost of postage (I'd swear the regular round
of increases weren't about service but about softening up the public
for the recently-announced takeover) I send physical cards. At a point
in time I sat down, filled my fountain pen and, however long or short
the message, for a few minutes I was thinking exclusively of the
recipient. If other people no longer send cards it can make it more
tricky sometimes to know whether they've died, moved away or moved on
from our relationship but absence of a card from them isn't in itself
a reason why I wouldn't want to send one.
The card might be the one time in the year I make contact. For
example, I no longer really have anything in common with the parents
of the child to whom my late wife was godmother but they are the
parents of the child to whom my late wife was godmother and I haven't
forgotten that. Sometimes I've had more interaction with a person over
the past year and I might send them a card out of the blue in
recognition and appreciation of that.
Each year there have been one or two crossed out names where I know a
person has fallen off their perch and gone to sing in the choir
invisible but what about someone I think _might_ have? Or are they
just sleeping? There was only one card I sent this year with an "if
undelivered, please return to.." message but - handwritten on the
back, doesn't that scream out the subtext "are you dead yet?" I really
don't know how to tackle those issues decently but as Sam said,
natural attrition reduces the number of such decisions to be made.
Nick